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Holiday Stress – Name it to TAME IT!

November 4, 2020

Stop for a moment. Be still. Be mindful within the moment.

In this moment, what are you feeling? What is your mood? Name it.

Seriously, define your feeling or mood. You are not to label the feeling or mood as good or bad, at this time, it is simply an awareness in the moment.

A recent study identified 27 human emotions1, which led me to research the difference between emotions, feelings, and moods. This is what I discovered:

  • feelings are mental associations and reactions to emotions
  • emotions are considered as our bodies’ responses to external stimuli
  • moods are a temporary state of mind or feeling

Now that we have those defined,  moving on to the concept of Name it to TAME IT.

A colleague recently wrote on her LinkedIn profile,

“Rebecca Rose taught me this awesome catchphrase a few weeks back at the #PNWVC and I can’t stop doing it. Have you heard…. NAME IT TO TAME IT….? Yes, it’s that simple! Those little problems that keep creeping up… name it to tame it! This pertains to anything; a child’s behavior, a person’s own physical/mental/emotional health needs, a team member’s attendance, a broken procedure/tool/etc. NAME IT TO TAME IT! The whole premise is — to call it out (nicely, please!) and work on what the fix is. Focus on what is working to find what isn’t, resolve it, and power forward!”

Thanks, Hayden, for the shout out!

This idea applies to the Holidays, in the moment, acknowledging the mood, the temporary feeling. It is normal to feel any or all of the emotions during the upcoming events. To tame is also a verb for putting something wild under control. Consider how some feelings may need to be tamed.

  • Anxiety
  • Awe
  • Awkwardness
  • Boredom
  • Confusion
  • Craving
  • Disgust
  • Envy
  • Fear
  • Horror
  • Joy
  • Sadness
  • Satisfaction
  • Sympathy
  • Triumph

Name it to tame it if it needs taming at all. When you catch your mind rambling in an undesirable state, focusing on anxiety, reliving a moment of confusion, or other charged emotional reaction, simply observe it, recognize the feeling by naming it. This exercise is to act as information, to check-in, not to overwhelm you. In that moment of awareness, your wild mind is tamed.

Another thing to consider, it’s OK not to feel OK during the Holidays.As we have noted, there is an enormous amount to juggle in the upcoming months. Families gathering, the remembrance of lost loved ones, the uncertainty experienced over the past year with expectations for the future. 

For those of you experiencing depression, anxiety, and overwhelmed, it’s OK to feel this way. Understand therapy may help as well as networking with support groups and tapping into your Employee Assistant Program (EAP).  

Yours in Holiday Spirit,

Rebecca Rose, CVT

 

 

 

Resources

Here are 27 Different Human Emotions Forbes, September, 2017, https://www.forbes.com/sites/brucelee/2017/09/09/here-are-the-27-different-human-emotions-according-to-a-study/?sh=1e56787b1335

It’s OK not be OK during the Holidays, Psychology Today, October 2020, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stigma-addiction-and-mental-health/202010/its-ok-not-be-ok-during-the-holidays